The first dance is one of the most photographed moments of a wedding day, and one of the most nerve-racking for many couples. Having your song performed live by your wedding singer or band makes it even more special. Here's how to choose your song and make the moment work.
Choosing your song
Start with meaning
The best first dance songs mean something to you. It might be the song that was playing when you met, a song from a gig you went to together, or simply a song you both love.
Think about tempo
Slow songs are traditional and easier for nervous dancers. A mid-tempo song can be more fun. Some couples start slow and switch into something upbeat halfway through, which is a great way to get guests onto the floor.
Consider length
Many songs are four minutes or longer. That can feel like a long time with everyone watching. Most singers and bands can shorten a song to two or three minutes.
Classic first dance songs
- At Last – Etta James
- The Way You Look Tonight – Frank Sinatra
- Can't Help Falling in Love – Elvis Presley
- Unchained Melody – The Righteous Brothers
- Wonderful Tonight – Eric Clapton
- Fly Me to the Moon – Frank Sinatra
Modern first dance songs
- Perfect – Ed Sheeran
- Thinking Out Loud – Ed Sheeran
- All of Me – John Legend
- A Thousand Years – Christina Perri
- Everything – Michael Bublé
- Make You Feel My Love – Adele
Having it sung live
Ask early
Most wedding singers and bands have a large repertoire, but they may not know your song. Ask when you book whether they already perform it. If not, many will learn it, given enough notice. Some performers charge for learning new material; check when you enquire.
Arrangements
Live performers can adapt a song to suit you: a slower intro, a shorter version or a key change to suit the singer's voice. An acoustic duo like Becky & Josh or a piano vocalist like Adam Press can create a gentle, intimate version.
Tribute acts
If your song is by a particular artist, a tribute act can perform it in character. An Ed Sheeran tribute performing Perfect, or a Michael Bublé tribute singing Everything, can make a memorable first dance.
Timing on the day
The first dance usually happens at the start of the evening reception. Plan it so:
- Evening guests have arrived
- The room has been turned around
- The photographer is ready
- The singer or band has sound-checked
Agree a cue with the act, often an announcement by the singer or the venue's master of ceremonies.
Nervous dancers
- Take a few dance lessons together
- Ask the singer to invite guests to join you after the first chorus
- Choose a song with a steady, easy rhythm
Beyond the first dance
Some couples also choose:
- A father-daughter or mother-son dance
- A song for walking into the reception
- A last song of the night
Give your singer or band a list in advance.
Choosing a wedding singer
Browse our wedding singers and vocalists such as Nikki Rogers, Lisa Pearson, Danielle Grace Williams and Simon Young. Watch their videos, check their set lists and ask about your song when you enquire.
Ceremony music to go with your first dance
If you're booking a singer for the evening, ask whether they also perform ceremony and drinks-reception sets. Having the same performer through the day creates a lovely continuity, and they can reprise your first dance song in a different style – perhaps as you walk back down the aisle, or as background during the meal.
Making the moment special
- Lighting: ask the venue to dim the lights and, if possible, put a spotlight on the dance floor.
- Space: clear the dance floor and ask guests to gather around the edge.
- Announcement: a short introduction from the singer sets the scene.
- Photographs: tell your photographer the timing so they're in position.
- Invite guests in: after a minute or so, the singer can invite everyone to join you, which takes the pressure off.
When things don't go to plan
Nerves are normal, and guests are on your side. If you lose the rhythm or forget the steps, laugh it off and keep going. If you'd like a safety net, ask the singer to invite guests on to the floor earlier than planned, or to move into an upbeat song if you give a signal.
Songs for the rest of the night
Your first dance sets the tone, but what follows matters just as much. Give your singer or band a short list of songs you'd love to hear, and a "do not play" list if there's anything you can't stand. Most performers welcome the guidance.
Quick answers
How much notice does a singer need to learn a song?
As much as possible. Several weeks is sensible, and longer for an unusual song or a special arrangement.
Can the band play our song in a different style?
Often, yes. Many bands and singers can create a slower, acoustic or swing version of a song.
Are there any hidden booking fees?
No Hidden Booking Fees. The price we quote is the price you pay. No additional agency booking fees or unexpected charges. We usually ask for a deposit to secure the date, and everything is confirmed in writing before your event.
Can I check if an act is free before I enquire?
Yes. Most act profiles have a live date checker, and Check your date shows who is available across our roster. Diaries change quickly in busy periods, so we always confirm availability when you enquire.
Ready to book?
See our wedding singers in Yorkshire, or request a quote with your date, venue and first dance song.
Ready to find your act?
Flair Entertainments has been booking entertainers for clients across the UK since 1984. Send us your date, venue and the kind of night you want and we’ll come back with acts that suit.
